Ben
– dude - you saw her before the ceremony.
Bad luck, they say. Missed out on
the big moment, when those doors swing open and there she is. Bad, bad luck.
And
both of you – escorted down the aisle in a liturgical procession. Instead of bride coming in on daddy’s arm and
being given away. More bad luck, I’m
sure someone from the superstition police would tell you.
Well
since we’re in the mode of breaking the rules here, or at least superstitions,
I’d like to break one of my own.
Congratulations. To both of you!
Wait!
- bad luck! You say “congratulations” to
the groom and “best wishes” to the bride.
Or something like that.
Hogwash. Congratulations. To the both of you.
Four
congratulations, actually.
First
of all, congratulations on your courtship, which has been very different,
counter-cultural. And on your marriage –
on getting married. More and more this
world will tell you it’s just a piece of paper, what do we need that for if we
love each other. I will tell you that
getting married is counter-cultural, and becoming more so by the day. So congratulations on trusting in each
other’s love enough to commit to loving each other for a lifetime.
Second
– congratulations on getting married before God and His people. If you were paying close attention to the
lyrics of the wedding song, which Matt and Julia so beautifully sang at the
beginning of our liturgy, the opening stanza was “He is
now to be among you at the calling of your hearts. Rest assured this
troubadour is acting on his part. The union of your spirits here has
caused him to remain for whenever two or more of you are gathered in His
name, there is love.”
You
could be exchanging vows and rings on a beautiful beach someplace, a destination
wedding. All the vogue these days. But you have chosen to come here to give your
consent, say solemn vows and exchange rings before God and all of us.
This
says something – something powerful. It
says that your faith is important to you.
Like Tobiah and Sarah whose prayer we heard in our first reading, you
desire a lifelong covenantal marriage with God at the center. That you seek God’s blessings and graces as
you set out on your married journey together.
That you want Him to accompany you all along that journey. And He will.
The meaning of the feast we celebrated only five days ago is “God is
with us” – Emmanuel. And God will be
with you. For that – congratulations!
Third,
congratulations on your marriage here.
Not only in Church, but in this Church.
For here we recognize that yours is more than a relationship, more than
a marriage. It’s a sacrament. Sacrament
– what’s that?
There
was a question posed in that song Matt and Julia sang - “Do you believe in
something that you’ve never seen before?”
A sacrament is a solemn, visible sign of something unseen, of a
spiritual reality.
You
see, since the beginning of time, God has been revealing Himself to His
creation, to us. The ultimate way He has
revealed Himself to us is in the person of His only begotten Son, Our Lord and
Savior, Jesus Christ. Jesus became the
sacrament, if you will, of the Father.
The physical manifestation of our unseen God with us.
Our
Lord ascended to heaven, and what did He leave behind? A ragtag group of
disciples, inspired by the Holy Spirit, led by twelve apostles – He left behind
the Church! The Church, then, is the
sacrament, the physical manifestation, the ongoing presence, of Jesus
Himself. To carry on the mission of
Jesus Himself.
And
why? For the same reason He came to
earth – for our salvation! The Church is
His instrument, His sacrament, for the salvation of the world. And He graciously left the Church seven
special ways in which He continues to manifest His presence to us – seven
special sacraments – of which holy matrimony is one.
Put
in this perspective, your marriage sacrament, which will begin in a few moments
and last your entire lives together, is part of Our Lord’s plan for the
salvation of the world. Your vocation,
your mission, as a couple, as a family, as a little church, is to make visible,
first to each other, and to every person you ever encounter, the loving presence
of Jesus Christ.
Your
love, the way you speak to each other, look at each other, sacrifice for each
other, forgive each other – is to be a physical and very real sign of something
– some One - you’ve never seen before – Our Blessed Lord. So that every single person you meet, but
above all each other – will get a glimpse of His amazing love for us, by the
way you love each other.
Your
sacramental love will then flow out from your relationship to, God willing, your
children, and your family, friends, community, our world. You two together will comfort the
mourning. Be peacemakers. Show mercy.
Seek justice and righteousness. Most especially with each other, but
overflowing to your family and world around you.
That is what we mean
by the Sacrament of Marriage. It’s a mission
– a vital mission He’s giving you, you’re accepting. It’s vital especially in our time, in a world
that thirsts for His presence. Thirsts
to know His love. His tenderness. His mercy.
For
taking on such an important mission, I say “congratulations!”
Finally,
congratulations on being married in front of this altar, where soon after we
will celebrate His real presence in the ultimate Sacrament, the source and
summit of our faith, Holy Eucharist. You
trust in His word when He says “unless you eat my flesh and drink my blood you
shall not have life within you” and you want that life always in your marriage.
You
will receive the very Body, blood, soul and divinity of our Blessed Lord into
your own bodies, and into your marriage, and unite yourselves in communion with
each other, with all of us who partake with you, and in a very real sense with
all those who have gone before us, those loved ones we wish could be here
today, and with all those who will come after us.
You
recognize the importance of this sacrament in your own lives and now in your
marriage. Always, always, keep Eucharist
at the center of your marriage.
So
to conclude, forget about bad luck. With
Jesus in His Blessed Sacrament at your center, and under the protection and
intercession of His Blessed Mother Mary and foster father Joseph, the Holy
Family whom we also celebrate this day, you won’t need luck.
For
you will have grace – He will shower you with an abundance of grace, and give
you the strength and meekness and mercy and every other good gift you will need
on your married journey together.
You
will have holiness – you will lead each other to ever deeper faith in Jesus
Christ.
And
you will have joy. Not necessarily
always happiness, but always joy. Joy in
knowing you are exactly where He wants you, fulfilling exactly the mission for
which you were created. Until that day
when together you experience the eternal joy He promises to all His
beloved. And make no mistake – you are
His beloved.
So
I say it again - Erin and Ben – Congratulations!
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